When my second daughter was only ten days old, my daughter had to be hospitalized for ten days. Her umbilical cord detached too early and she developed an infection, #omphalitis.

At her wellness check up I bought it to the pediatrician's attention (he had completely skipped over it). It took him getting a second and third opinion from two different attending doctors. I was told my daughter had to be admitted to the hospital immediately. The signs of incompetency came in hard and swift. I wish we would've left then.

I know now, I had the right to refuse treatment and seek it else where. 

​After the birth of my first child, I was still reeling from the fact that we had to deviate from my birth plan (I had no one there reassuring me that this was ok). A birth plan I had created on my own, and was desperately holding onto. When really it was a dad attempt at me trying to remain in control of... Anything.

I remember specifically stating to my nurse that I wanted to breastfeed.  I had taken a few breastfeeding classes at the hospital I birthed at, but none of the information seemed to be helpful in the first moments of trying to feed my newborn... The nurses offered no assistance, just formula. The lactation consultant, visited me twice during my hospital stay. Both times, she stayed for all of twenty minutes...